We have all experienced emotions such as fear or panic when we are in danger. This feeling of anguish that we experience is a normal react...
However, feeling fear may not be so normal when it is frequently experienced in the absence of real danger, this is known as anxiety.
Anxiety can be recognized when some symptoms appear, such as worry, insecurity, difficulty making decisions, negative thoughts, fear of losing control in a situation, difficulties concentrating; including sweating, muscle tension, headaches, among others.
Now, when we identify these symptoms in our partner, we must support them immediately; since, according to experts, anxiety can be related to health problems, such as diabetes, heart disease, thyroid problems, among others.
That is why we must consult a specialist and not take the problem lightly, because the consequences can be fatal; such as depression, trouble sleeping, and the worst, which is an attempt on his own life.
How to support and help our partner
Once your partner already has a diagnosis by a specialist and is undergoing treatment, what you can do to support them at home will be:
1. Be empathic
Many times we stop being empathic with our partners because they argue that their fears and the panic they feel are real, even though there is really no danger. This logically can trigger conflicts in the relationship. For this reason, we must learn to be empathic with our partner, understanding their discomfort, since, although there is no real danger, we must know that for him or her it does exist.
What can you do? Listen to her carefully, tell her that you understand and understand how she feels, offer her security and remember never to invalidate her feelings since she will feel rejection and this can seriously damage her self-esteem by feeling that she is not loved or understood.
2. Don't tell him his fear isn't real.
If you try to explain to your partner that their feelings are not real, then he or she will feel like a fool; It will be better to let them tell you what they feel and what is the origin of their fears so that you can understand them and thus be able to help by anticipating situations that cause them to feel anxiety.
For example, maybe your partner feels anxiety because he is stressed by the workload or not being able to meet the needs of the family, then it will be time to support and help to lighten his load.
3. Distract your mind
At this point I do not mean that you become the clown of the party to be able to entertain your partner, on the contrary, it will be time to implement coexistence strategies and thus get out of the routine to break the monotony.
Keep in mind that for people who suffer from anxiety, a day without experiencing fear is the best, which is why it will be very helpful and supportive when you distract your partner by doing things out of the routine. Perhaps it could be good for your partner to go out to eat at a restaurant, walk in the park, do some physical activity, among other ideas.
4. Show your love
One of the frequent fears that some of the people who suffer from anxiety have is that their partner abandons them or stops loving them because they have this disease. For this reason, it will be essential that you show your affection in different ways. It can be physically with hugs, kisses, caresses, intimate encounters or with any detail such as letters, messages, among other ideas.
Your partner should feel protected and safe with you, so never stop showing him how important he is to you and that you love him as he is.
5. Do not treat him like a sick person
It is difficult to continue living the same when seeing that the loved one is suffering, however, you must continue with your own life, that is, avoid making radical changes in your routine or lifestyle. This way your partner will feel supported when you stop treating him like a sick person.
Now, you can be on the lookout at all times but not be too obvious, otherwise, your partner will feel like a useless person, they will think that they are a hindrance and that they only cause you pain and suffering. That is why it is recommended to continue with the same lifestyle, without changing anything, so that your partner feels supported, without affecting their self-esteem.
6. Motivate
Setting new goals and objectives is an effective way to motivate your partner and thus make her feel good. When the two of you set goals and work together to achieve them, your partner will feel supported and motivated.
Remember that goals should be planned in the short term so that they can be achieved quickly so that both of you will feel satisfied and happy.
Having anxiety is a problem that should undoubtedly be diagnosed and treated by a specialist, however, your help and support at home will be important so that your partner can heal and feel good. Remember that love heals everything and that together you can get ahead.
